There are some very simple and effective strategies that will help to reduce the incidence of hostile parenting.
• Require parents to communicate by way of fax machine or E mail. This method of communication helps both parents to relay request and pass information while leaving a paper trail. This puts a hostile parent on notice that a request has been made. Generally hostile parents will not be as aggressive when they know that others will be able to see what they are not acting in the best interests of their child.
• That a collaborative approach to helping the family through involvement of the community. Third parties such as family coordinators should be involved with the family and to monitor the communication between parents. Family Coordinators serve as valuable third party witnesses to ensure that parents communicate effectively.
To stop the needless abuse of children, Society must:
• As a first step, to ensure fairness and to ensure in its orders that BOTH parents are treated equally. This is the most powerful and effective way for the court to gain respect for its orders..
• Shared parenting and shared responsibilities in raising the child must be given top consideration. When both parents know that they have a legally recognized status in their child's life, then both parents will focus on maintaining their status by being the best parent they can rather than trying to get the other parent out of the child's life and risk having their parenting status removed by the court.
• Provide BOTH parents the opportunity to demonstrate their ability to parent the child before making any final custody Order. When both parents know they will have the opportunity to demonstrate their parenting abilities their will be less incentive to act in a hostile manner during the early stages of separation or divorce.
• Special considerations must be made to the parent that demonstrates the willingness and disposition to promote a relationship with the other parent and to consistently act in the best interests of the child.
The Family Assistance and Parent Support Program. Sept 13, 2000
• Require parents to communicate by way of fax machine or E mail. This method of communication helps both parents to relay request and pass information while leaving a paper trail. This puts a hostile parent on notice that a request has been made. Generally hostile parents will not be as aggressive when they know that others will be able to see what they are not acting in the best interests of their child.
• That a collaborative approach to helping the family through involvement of the community. Third parties such as family coordinators should be involved with the family and to monitor the communication between parents. Family Coordinators serve as valuable third party witnesses to ensure that parents communicate effectively.
To stop the needless abuse of children, Society must:
• As a first step, to ensure fairness and to ensure in its orders that BOTH parents are treated equally. This is the most powerful and effective way for the court to gain respect for its orders..
• Shared parenting and shared responsibilities in raising the child must be given top consideration. When both parents know that they have a legally recognized status in their child's life, then both parents will focus on maintaining their status by being the best parent they can rather than trying to get the other parent out of the child's life and risk having their parenting status removed by the court.
• Provide BOTH parents the opportunity to demonstrate their ability to parent the child before making any final custody Order. When both parents know they will have the opportunity to demonstrate their parenting abilities their will be less incentive to act in a hostile manner during the early stages of separation or divorce.
• Special considerations must be made to the parent that demonstrates the willingness and disposition to promote a relationship with the other parent and to consistently act in the best interests of the child.
The Family Assistance and Parent Support Program. Sept 13, 2000
