Emotional/Psychological abuse behaviour – Father
- he has to know where you are and who you are with all the time
- he tries to control your contact with your friends
- he puts down what you wear, so and say
- he tries to control you by being very bossy, giving orders, making all the decisions, and does not take your opinion or your feelings seriously
- he is scary, you worry about how they will react to things you say or do
- he abuses drugs or alcohol
- he puts you down so you will lose self-esteem, confidence and control
- he tells people things you did or said that embarrass you and make you feel stupid
- he says it’s your fault when things go wrong
- he calls you stupid, fat, lazy, selfish, spoiled, ugly, or a “slut”
- he blames you when he mistreats you, he says you deserved it or you provoked him, pressed his buttons, made him do it
- he threatens you
- he uses physical violence or he physically controls you, for example, physically stopping you from going out of the house
- he hurts or hits you, or uses his greater physical strength to hold you down so he makes you feel hopeless, powerless, or humiliated
- he threatens to hit you, hurt your friends, pets, or family if you do not do what he wants
- he says he will kick you out of the house if you don’t obey him
- he threatens to stop giving you money, or to not pay for your education if you do not obey him
- he threatens to kill himself and blames it on you
- he gets very angry about small, unimportant things
- he will not tell you his feelings when you ask and then he blows up
- he pressures you to do things you don’t want to do
- he attempts to manipulate or guilt trip you by saying “if you really loved me you would…” or “if you were a good daughter you would…”
- he compares you to other people’s daughters and says things like “why can’t you be more like…”
Taken from: http://eqi.org/eam1.htm
- he has to know where you are and who you are with all the time
- he tries to control your contact with your friends
- he puts down what you wear, so and say
- he tries to control you by being very bossy, giving orders, making all the decisions, and does not take your opinion or your feelings seriously
- he is scary, you worry about how they will react to things you say or do
- he abuses drugs or alcohol
- he puts you down so you will lose self-esteem, confidence and control
- he tells people things you did or said that embarrass you and make you feel stupid
- he says it’s your fault when things go wrong
- he calls you stupid, fat, lazy, selfish, spoiled, ugly, or a “slut”
- he blames you when he mistreats you, he says you deserved it or you provoked him, pressed his buttons, made him do it
- he threatens you
- he uses physical violence or he physically controls you, for example, physically stopping you from going out of the house
- he hurts or hits you, or uses his greater physical strength to hold you down so he makes you feel hopeless, powerless, or humiliated
- he threatens to hit you, hurt your friends, pets, or family if you do not do what he wants
- he says he will kick you out of the house if you don’t obey him
- he threatens to stop giving you money, or to not pay for your education if you do not obey him
- he threatens to kill himself and blames it on you
- he gets very angry about small, unimportant things
- he will not tell you his feelings when you ask and then he blows up
- he pressures you to do things you don’t want to do
- he attempts to manipulate or guilt trip you by saying “if you really loved me you would…” or “if you were a good daughter you would…”
- he compares you to other people’s daughters and says things like “why can’t you be more like…”
Taken from: http://eqi.org/eam1.htm