Identifying and evaluating “Severe” HAP behaviours/indicators:
1. The HAP parent has taken ANY child and gone into hiding or has attempted to flee to another country, province, state or jurisdiction which is more than 100 km away from the child’s current place of residence, prior to a court Order authorizing this, which has resulted in a child’s relationship with another parent being interfered with, but the child has since been returned by the parent to his/her original jurisdiction and the child has resumed full contact with the other parent as per the court Order or agreement.
2. The HAP parent has threatened to kill, to seriously harm, or to use a weapon against any child, or the parent has physically or sexually assaulted ANY child in the household or any child under his/her care, including stepchildren (not to be confused with minor physical discipline necessary to correct a child’s behaviour) and that this incident occurred sometime and there is credible evidence or testimony to support this claim.
3. The HAP parent has attempted to extort or blackmail another parent into signing court documents relating to any issue and has used denial of access to children as a weapon to extort or blackmail or extort the other parent and the child’s access to the other parent was interfered with at the time.
4. The HAP parent has allowed persons to come into contact with a child in the household when there is a consent agreement or court Order in place at the time which specifically prohibits that person from having any contact with that child because of physical or emotional harm caused to the child as a result of that person’s previous behaviour and/or actions.
5. The HAP parent is currently covertly planning to have the child undergo any sort of unnecessary medical procedure contrary to the wishes of the other parent or the child and there is compelling evidence to support this conclusion.
6. The HAP parent has attempted to change the child’s religion or indoctrinate the child into a religious group or cult contrary to the wishes of the other parent or the child.
7. The HAP parent has refused to allow their child to come to their home for an access visit when the child has indicated a desire to do so and there would appear to be no reason to justify the HAP parent’s refusal to see the child.
8. The HAP parent has attempted to bribe or blackmail professionals or court officials to support his/her position using money or other favors as enticement.
9. The HAP parent has placed the child into foster care or in a group home facility for what would appear to be frivolous or vexatious reasons or for what would appear to be part of a plan to punish the child or to keep the child from being with the other parent or family member.
10. The HAP parent has attempted to mislead, lie or to conceal information considered relative to a custody and access investigation.
11. The HAP parent has physically assaulted the other parent and the assault was witnessed by any child who lives within or has visited the household.
12. The HAP primary care parent is currently in violation of key clauses of a court order or parenting agreement, especially in relation to a child’s parenting time, which has resulted in a child’s scheduled time with a non primary care parent being interfered with in the absence of compelling evidence to support that this would be in the child’s best interest.
13. The HAP parent has between placed the child into foster care or in a group home facility for children because of significant behaviour problems with the child when there was suitable alternate care available with another parent or other family members at the time.
14. The HAP parent has forged or attempted to forge, falsify or tamper with court documents or medical reports in his/her family court matter.
15. The HAP parent has submitted a false statement to police or to the court which can be reasonably shown that the parent knew beforehand was false and intended to do harm to the other parent or subvert the administration of Justice.
16. The HAP parent has appeared to be unable or unwilling to set reasonable and justifiable limits on any child living in their household in relation to sex, drugs, smoking, firearms or other influences generally considered by the community as potentially harmful or having a negative influence on a child.
17. The HAP parent has appeared to be unable or unwilling to control the use of swearing and other forms of disrespectful language between members of the household.
18. The HAP parent has unilaterally relocated the child’s place of residency further away from the other parent, family and friends without consulting the other parent prior to the move which has resulted in a change of schools for the child.
19. The HAP parent has threatened the other parent with moving the child to another jurisdiction if the other parent does not do things the way that they want.
20. The HAP parent has displayed anger/verbal abuse against the other parent in front of the child.
21. The HAP parent has displayed anger/verbal abuse against the other parent in front of other third parties other than the child.
22. The HAP parent has encouraged or assisted the child to write or to deliver a mean spirited letter or drawing to the other parent which would appear to be intended to hurt the other parent to extort something from the other parent.
23. The HAP parent has within encouraged a child to collaborate with him/her in making false allegations against the other parent and evidence to support this exists.
23. The HAP parent has encouraged a child to collaborate with him/her in making false allegations against the other parent and evidence to support this exists.
24. The HAP parent has coached, threatened, or intimidated the child to remain silent about incidences where the child has been abused or where the child has witnessed abuse, violence or other hostile aggressive behaviors by the parent.
25. The HAP parent has applied specific penalties to reprimand or punish a child about saying things to others that were truthful which appears to be intended to make the child remain silent.
26. The HAP parent has made allegations against the other parent involving sexual or physical abuse of the child with no evidence to support their claims.
27. The HAP parent has assaulted or attempted to physically harm the other parent.
28. The HAP parent has committed acts of vandalism in the home against any property belonging to any child living in the parent’s home.
29. The HAP parent has forced the child to see the other parent under supervised (court ordered or otherwise) access when there would appear to be highly questionable need for supervision or contrary to the child’s age appropriate wishes and preferences.
30. The HAP custodial parent has or has attempted to have, members of his/her own family appointed as supervisors for access to the child by the other parent contrary to the wishes of the other parent or the child.
31. This HAP parent has failed to deliver the child to a supervised access center without valid reason to allow the child to see the other parent when this is part of a court order or agreement.
32. The HAP parent has legally renamed a child, or attempted to rename a child more than 12 months after the birth of the child, contrary to the general prevailing customs of the country or contrary to the wishes of the other biological or established parent. (Generally applicable to mothers only in North America)
33. The HAP parent has rejected regular or registered mail from the other parent or has refused to accept mail from the other parent’s solicitor.
34. The HAP parent has refused to allow paternity (DNA) testing to be done on any child or upon themselves in order to confirm the identity of the biological father when there may allegations raised in a family court matter as to the identity of the father of a child.
35. The HAP parent has arranged to have antidepressants prescribed by a doctor to their child without the consent or approval of the other parent or without giving the other parent the opportunity to discuss the child’s medical matter with the doctor first.
36. The HAP parent has committed acts of minor vandalism in the home or against the personal property of the other parent.
37. The HAP parent has disclosed to the child, information from court documents that are not appropriate for the child’s level of maturity and understanding.
38. The HAP parent has secretly tape recorded the children’s telephone conversations with the other parent or other family members without the children’s knowledge or permission and without reasonable cause.
39. The HAP parent has intercepted and read private E mail communication intended for the child or has erased E mail messages intended for the child from the other parent or other family members before the child has read the message.
40. The HAP parent has intercepted private regular mail intended for the child from the other parent or other family members before the child has read the mail.
41. This HAP parent has taken the personal property (e.g. computers, personal records, financial records, etc.) of the other parent without the other parent’s consent.
42. This HAP parent has abandoned the shared or matrimonial home without notice to the other parent and removed mutually shared belongings prior to the consent or knowledge of the other parent. (E.g. furniture, appliances, pictures, etc.)
43. The HAP parent has intercepted (or arranged), private and confidential e mail communication between the other parent and other third parties and/or has attempted to use this intercepted communications in court proceedings or has disclosed these private messages to the children, family members or friends for purposes other than to protect the children.
44. The HAP parent has acted in a manner that has made the child feel unwanted or rejected in the HAP parent’s home such as giving the child’s possessions away to other siblings, taking away the child’s room, or packing up the child’s possessions as if the child was not welcome.
45. The HAP parent has attempted to promote dissention and disharmony between siblings in an effort to alienate those siblings who do not support the HAP parent.
46. The HAP parent has attempted to have other persons make false allegations against the other parent which appear intended to infringe upon the rights and freedoms of the child and/or the other parent in any way.
47. The HAP parent has during a disagreement with a child, threatened a child with eviction from the home or has told the child to go and live with the other parent or threatened foster care because they don’t want them in their house.
48. The subject custodial parent told the other parent that they cannot have access to the child because they are behind in child support payments.
49. The HAP parent has to attend an anger management or parenting course when reasonable evidence would exist to suggest that the HAP parent suffers from anger related problems.
50. The HAP parent has made a complaint about the other parent leaving the children in the care of other family member during the child’s scheduled time with another parent who was receiving less than 50% of the child’s parenting time at the time of the complaint.
51. The HAP parent has made allegations in court documents to cast the other parent in an unfavorable light to the court by bringing to the attention of the court, any lawful activities which the other parent may be involved in which may involve the other parent’s protest of the court system.
52. The HAP parent has attempted or supported efforts to have the other parent incarcerated for child support arrears when the other parent does not have the reasonable means of paying the child support payments or when the other parent is depended upon by another spouse or by other children.
53. The HAP parent has tried to have the other parent pay retroactively for previous additional expenses relating to the child which the parent did not previously bring to the attention of the other parent at the time when the additional expenses were being considered or incurred.
54. The HAP parent has or attempted to make false claims for additional expenses for the child such day care, clothing, medical expenses etc., when no such expenses existed.
55. The HAP parent has refused to reimburse or to cooperate to have any government subsidy or tax credit properly designated to the other parent when the other parent is legally entitled to the government subsidy or tax credit. (most applicable when a child may change primary residence)
56. The HAP parent has found to be intoxicated while caring for any child or has been reported by another third party as being 8 intoxicated while in charge of any child or when attempting to take charge of a child.
57. The HAP parent has made harassing phone calls to the other parent (late night, multiple hang-ups, swearing, etc.)
58. The HAP parent has threatened to remove or has attempted to remove the child from the public education system and to home school the child without the prior consultation or consent of the other parent.
59. The HAP parent has exposed the child to ongoing smoking in the home contrary to the advice of a physician or when the child is known to have a medical condition which is aggravated by the smoking.
60. The HAP parent has failed to follow-up with appropriate professional help for a child under his/her care and control who has exhibited signs of depression, anxiety or who exhibits an unhealthy attraction or obsession to socially undesirable behaviours and influences such as guns, fires, knives, drugs, drinking, the occult, violent crimes, rapes, torture, killing, etc. that were apparent at that time.
61. The HAP parent has over-reacted to situations by calling for intervention by police to deal with minor incidents or misunderstandings involving family members or the children
62. The HAP parent has attempted to intimidate or humiliate the other parent or family member with the inappropriate and obtrusive use of a video or still camera without cause for such action. (As opposed to the unobtrusive use of such equipment for purposes of collection of evidence or for self protection against false allegations)
63. The HAP parent has impeded the registration or admittance of a child into a school after the child who is above the age of 10 years of age has run away from the parent’s home to live with the other parent and wishes to live with the other parent.
64. The HAP parent has instructed other children in the household to interfere or prevent another child in the home from exercising his/her wishes to phone or to spent time with another parent when there is no reasonable reason to confine the child or to restrict the child rights and wishes in this manner. (Sibling Alienation)
65. The HAP parent has physically locked a child in a room using a mechanical device or object with the intent to keep the child from contacting the other parent by phone or from escaping the home to be with the other parent.
66. The HAP parent has threatened to call the police and to have the other parent charged with harassment for attempting to call a child in the household even when the child has indicated that he/she wishes to communicate with the other parent or there is no apparent threat to the child.
67. The HAP parent has told the child that the other parent does not love or did not want him/her at birth.
68. The HAP parent has refused the other parent’s request to modify, update or to change a court order or parenting agreement that was put in place more than 36 months ago, in order to make the agreement more appropriate for the child’s current developmental needs.
69. The HAP parent has personally interrogated the child and put the child in a situation where the child has been made to feel uncomfortable with the HAP parent’s line of questioning.
70. The HAP parent has either threatened, humiliated, criticized, lashed, out or denigrated the child for spending additional time with the other parent or for the child indicating a preference to spend time or to live with the other parent.
71. The HAP parent has attempted to have the other parent excluded from participating in the child’s extra-curricular activities such as volunteering as a driver, sports coach or any activity where the parent may be taking on a voluntary role with the organization.
72. The HAP parent has prevented or interfered with the other parent’s attempts to obtain medical, dental or school information about the child from other agencies or professionals.
73. The HAP parent has encouraged or put pressure on their child take on the last name of their current spouse without legally changing the 4 name when the child is mature enough to know his/her other parent and birth name.
74. The HAP parent has fostered or contributed to an environment which could be seen as condoning, encouraging or providing the opportunity for a minor child to engage in premature sexual activities which could put their child at risk of becoming pregnant or the child impregnating another person. (Permissive Parenting)
75. The HAP parent has while the parties were still cohabitating at the time, taken the child away for at least one overnight without advising the other parent where the HAP parent and the child have gone in what would appear an attempt to cause worry or to deprive the other parent of knowing the whereabouts of the child.
76. The HAP parent has refused to share prescription medication intended for the child and has sent the child to the other parent’s home without permitting the prescribed medication to travel with the child.
77. The HAP parent has refused to allow his/her drug/dental benefit plan to be used to purchase medication for the child when the child is at the other parent’s home thus forcing the other parent to purchase medication which would otherwise be covered by the parent’s benefit’s plan.
78. The HAP parent has refused to allow the child to take passes or coupons (season ski passes or amusement park passes, etc.) to the other parent’s home which the child could benefit from the use of while at the other parent’s home.
79. The HAP parent has refused to cooperate to vary a previous court order after the child has started working or has moved to live with the other parent or for any other reason is no longer applicable for child support.
80. The HAP parent has refused to take the necessary steps to advise a child support collection agency from withdrawing money from another parent for child support or daycare expenses when the child is no longer living with the HAP parent or daycare expenses are no longer applicable or has refused to refund the other parent for child support or daycare expenses that were not rightfully owed to the parent for a specific time period.
81. The HAP parent has permitted a minor child in the household to allow a boyfriend or girlfriend of the minor to live in the household contrary to the wishes of the other parent.
82. The HAP parent has offered the child money or other financial incentives conditional upon the child living with the parent.
83. The HAP parent has refused to allow the other parent to purchase his/her portion of the matrimonial home which has been the home for one or more of the couple’s children and has insisted that the home be put up for sale on the open marketplace.
84. The HAP parent has refused to obtain professional help or to participate in any program intended to help any child who would appear to be suffering from the effects of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS).
Taken from: Risk assessment protocol to evaluate the risk of harm to children caused by Hostile-Aggressive Parenting (HAP) (including recommended intervention strategies) Published by: Family Conflict Resolution Services
1. The HAP parent has taken ANY child and gone into hiding or has attempted to flee to another country, province, state or jurisdiction which is more than 100 km away from the child’s current place of residence, prior to a court Order authorizing this, which has resulted in a child’s relationship with another parent being interfered with, but the child has since been returned by the parent to his/her original jurisdiction and the child has resumed full contact with the other parent as per the court Order or agreement.
2. The HAP parent has threatened to kill, to seriously harm, or to use a weapon against any child, or the parent has physically or sexually assaulted ANY child in the household or any child under his/her care, including stepchildren (not to be confused with minor physical discipline necessary to correct a child’s behaviour) and that this incident occurred sometime and there is credible evidence or testimony to support this claim.
3. The HAP parent has attempted to extort or blackmail another parent into signing court documents relating to any issue and has used denial of access to children as a weapon to extort or blackmail or extort the other parent and the child’s access to the other parent was interfered with at the time.
4. The HAP parent has allowed persons to come into contact with a child in the household when there is a consent agreement or court Order in place at the time which specifically prohibits that person from having any contact with that child because of physical or emotional harm caused to the child as a result of that person’s previous behaviour and/or actions.
5. The HAP parent is currently covertly planning to have the child undergo any sort of unnecessary medical procedure contrary to the wishes of the other parent or the child and there is compelling evidence to support this conclusion.
6. The HAP parent has attempted to change the child’s religion or indoctrinate the child into a religious group or cult contrary to the wishes of the other parent or the child.
7. The HAP parent has refused to allow their child to come to their home for an access visit when the child has indicated a desire to do so and there would appear to be no reason to justify the HAP parent’s refusal to see the child.
8. The HAP parent has attempted to bribe or blackmail professionals or court officials to support his/her position using money or other favors as enticement.
9. The HAP parent has placed the child into foster care or in a group home facility for what would appear to be frivolous or vexatious reasons or for what would appear to be part of a plan to punish the child or to keep the child from being with the other parent or family member.
10. The HAP parent has attempted to mislead, lie or to conceal information considered relative to a custody and access investigation.
11. The HAP parent has physically assaulted the other parent and the assault was witnessed by any child who lives within or has visited the household.
12. The HAP primary care parent is currently in violation of key clauses of a court order or parenting agreement, especially in relation to a child’s parenting time, which has resulted in a child’s scheduled time with a non primary care parent being interfered with in the absence of compelling evidence to support that this would be in the child’s best interest.
13. The HAP parent has between placed the child into foster care or in a group home facility for children because of significant behaviour problems with the child when there was suitable alternate care available with another parent or other family members at the time.
14. The HAP parent has forged or attempted to forge, falsify or tamper with court documents or medical reports in his/her family court matter.
15. The HAP parent has submitted a false statement to police or to the court which can be reasonably shown that the parent knew beforehand was false and intended to do harm to the other parent or subvert the administration of Justice.
16. The HAP parent has appeared to be unable or unwilling to set reasonable and justifiable limits on any child living in their household in relation to sex, drugs, smoking, firearms or other influences generally considered by the community as potentially harmful or having a negative influence on a child.
17. The HAP parent has appeared to be unable or unwilling to control the use of swearing and other forms of disrespectful language between members of the household.
18. The HAP parent has unilaterally relocated the child’s place of residency further away from the other parent, family and friends without consulting the other parent prior to the move which has resulted in a change of schools for the child.
19. The HAP parent has threatened the other parent with moving the child to another jurisdiction if the other parent does not do things the way that they want.
20. The HAP parent has displayed anger/verbal abuse against the other parent in front of the child.
21. The HAP parent has displayed anger/verbal abuse against the other parent in front of other third parties other than the child.
22. The HAP parent has encouraged or assisted the child to write or to deliver a mean spirited letter or drawing to the other parent which would appear to be intended to hurt the other parent to extort something from the other parent.
23. The HAP parent has within encouraged a child to collaborate with him/her in making false allegations against the other parent and evidence to support this exists.
23. The HAP parent has encouraged a child to collaborate with him/her in making false allegations against the other parent and evidence to support this exists.
24. The HAP parent has coached, threatened, or intimidated the child to remain silent about incidences where the child has been abused or where the child has witnessed abuse, violence or other hostile aggressive behaviors by the parent.
25. The HAP parent has applied specific penalties to reprimand or punish a child about saying things to others that were truthful which appears to be intended to make the child remain silent.
26. The HAP parent has made allegations against the other parent involving sexual or physical abuse of the child with no evidence to support their claims.
27. The HAP parent has assaulted or attempted to physically harm the other parent.
28. The HAP parent has committed acts of vandalism in the home against any property belonging to any child living in the parent’s home.
29. The HAP parent has forced the child to see the other parent under supervised (court ordered or otherwise) access when there would appear to be highly questionable need for supervision or contrary to the child’s age appropriate wishes and preferences.
30. The HAP custodial parent has or has attempted to have, members of his/her own family appointed as supervisors for access to the child by the other parent contrary to the wishes of the other parent or the child.
31. This HAP parent has failed to deliver the child to a supervised access center without valid reason to allow the child to see the other parent when this is part of a court order or agreement.
32. The HAP parent has legally renamed a child, or attempted to rename a child more than 12 months after the birth of the child, contrary to the general prevailing customs of the country or contrary to the wishes of the other biological or established parent. (Generally applicable to mothers only in North America)
33. The HAP parent has rejected regular or registered mail from the other parent or has refused to accept mail from the other parent’s solicitor.
34. The HAP parent has refused to allow paternity (DNA) testing to be done on any child or upon themselves in order to confirm the identity of the biological father when there may allegations raised in a family court matter as to the identity of the father of a child.
35. The HAP parent has arranged to have antidepressants prescribed by a doctor to their child without the consent or approval of the other parent or without giving the other parent the opportunity to discuss the child’s medical matter with the doctor first.
36. The HAP parent has committed acts of minor vandalism in the home or against the personal property of the other parent.
37. The HAP parent has disclosed to the child, information from court documents that are not appropriate for the child’s level of maturity and understanding.
38. The HAP parent has secretly tape recorded the children’s telephone conversations with the other parent or other family members without the children’s knowledge or permission and without reasonable cause.
39. The HAP parent has intercepted and read private E mail communication intended for the child or has erased E mail messages intended for the child from the other parent or other family members before the child has read the message.
40. The HAP parent has intercepted private regular mail intended for the child from the other parent or other family members before the child has read the mail.
41. This HAP parent has taken the personal property (e.g. computers, personal records, financial records, etc.) of the other parent without the other parent’s consent.
42. This HAP parent has abandoned the shared or matrimonial home without notice to the other parent and removed mutually shared belongings prior to the consent or knowledge of the other parent. (E.g. furniture, appliances, pictures, etc.)
43. The HAP parent has intercepted (or arranged), private and confidential e mail communication between the other parent and other third parties and/or has attempted to use this intercepted communications in court proceedings or has disclosed these private messages to the children, family members or friends for purposes other than to protect the children.
44. The HAP parent has acted in a manner that has made the child feel unwanted or rejected in the HAP parent’s home such as giving the child’s possessions away to other siblings, taking away the child’s room, or packing up the child’s possessions as if the child was not welcome.
45. The HAP parent has attempted to promote dissention and disharmony between siblings in an effort to alienate those siblings who do not support the HAP parent.
46. The HAP parent has attempted to have other persons make false allegations against the other parent which appear intended to infringe upon the rights and freedoms of the child and/or the other parent in any way.
47. The HAP parent has during a disagreement with a child, threatened a child with eviction from the home or has told the child to go and live with the other parent or threatened foster care because they don’t want them in their house.
48. The subject custodial parent told the other parent that they cannot have access to the child because they are behind in child support payments.
49. The HAP parent has to attend an anger management or parenting course when reasonable evidence would exist to suggest that the HAP parent suffers from anger related problems.
50. The HAP parent has made a complaint about the other parent leaving the children in the care of other family member during the child’s scheduled time with another parent who was receiving less than 50% of the child’s parenting time at the time of the complaint.
51. The HAP parent has made allegations in court documents to cast the other parent in an unfavorable light to the court by bringing to the attention of the court, any lawful activities which the other parent may be involved in which may involve the other parent’s protest of the court system.
52. The HAP parent has attempted or supported efforts to have the other parent incarcerated for child support arrears when the other parent does not have the reasonable means of paying the child support payments or when the other parent is depended upon by another spouse or by other children.
53. The HAP parent has tried to have the other parent pay retroactively for previous additional expenses relating to the child which the parent did not previously bring to the attention of the other parent at the time when the additional expenses were being considered or incurred.
54. The HAP parent has or attempted to make false claims for additional expenses for the child such day care, clothing, medical expenses etc., when no such expenses existed.
55. The HAP parent has refused to reimburse or to cooperate to have any government subsidy or tax credit properly designated to the other parent when the other parent is legally entitled to the government subsidy or tax credit. (most applicable when a child may change primary residence)
56. The HAP parent has found to be intoxicated while caring for any child or has been reported by another third party as being 8 intoxicated while in charge of any child or when attempting to take charge of a child.
57. The HAP parent has made harassing phone calls to the other parent (late night, multiple hang-ups, swearing, etc.)
58. The HAP parent has threatened to remove or has attempted to remove the child from the public education system and to home school the child without the prior consultation or consent of the other parent.
59. The HAP parent has exposed the child to ongoing smoking in the home contrary to the advice of a physician or when the child is known to have a medical condition which is aggravated by the smoking.
60. The HAP parent has failed to follow-up with appropriate professional help for a child under his/her care and control who has exhibited signs of depression, anxiety or who exhibits an unhealthy attraction or obsession to socially undesirable behaviours and influences such as guns, fires, knives, drugs, drinking, the occult, violent crimes, rapes, torture, killing, etc. that were apparent at that time.
61. The HAP parent has over-reacted to situations by calling for intervention by police to deal with minor incidents or misunderstandings involving family members or the children
62. The HAP parent has attempted to intimidate or humiliate the other parent or family member with the inappropriate and obtrusive use of a video or still camera without cause for such action. (As opposed to the unobtrusive use of such equipment for purposes of collection of evidence or for self protection against false allegations)
63. The HAP parent has impeded the registration or admittance of a child into a school after the child who is above the age of 10 years of age has run away from the parent’s home to live with the other parent and wishes to live with the other parent.
64. The HAP parent has instructed other children in the household to interfere or prevent another child in the home from exercising his/her wishes to phone or to spent time with another parent when there is no reasonable reason to confine the child or to restrict the child rights and wishes in this manner. (Sibling Alienation)
65. The HAP parent has physically locked a child in a room using a mechanical device or object with the intent to keep the child from contacting the other parent by phone or from escaping the home to be with the other parent.
66. The HAP parent has threatened to call the police and to have the other parent charged with harassment for attempting to call a child in the household even when the child has indicated that he/she wishes to communicate with the other parent or there is no apparent threat to the child.
67. The HAP parent has told the child that the other parent does not love or did not want him/her at birth.
68. The HAP parent has refused the other parent’s request to modify, update or to change a court order or parenting agreement that was put in place more than 36 months ago, in order to make the agreement more appropriate for the child’s current developmental needs.
69. The HAP parent has personally interrogated the child and put the child in a situation where the child has been made to feel uncomfortable with the HAP parent’s line of questioning.
70. The HAP parent has either threatened, humiliated, criticized, lashed, out or denigrated the child for spending additional time with the other parent or for the child indicating a preference to spend time or to live with the other parent.
71. The HAP parent has attempted to have the other parent excluded from participating in the child’s extra-curricular activities such as volunteering as a driver, sports coach or any activity where the parent may be taking on a voluntary role with the organization.
72. The HAP parent has prevented or interfered with the other parent’s attempts to obtain medical, dental or school information about the child from other agencies or professionals.
73. The HAP parent has encouraged or put pressure on their child take on the last name of their current spouse without legally changing the 4 name when the child is mature enough to know his/her other parent and birth name.
74. The HAP parent has fostered or contributed to an environment which could be seen as condoning, encouraging or providing the opportunity for a minor child to engage in premature sexual activities which could put their child at risk of becoming pregnant or the child impregnating another person. (Permissive Parenting)
75. The HAP parent has while the parties were still cohabitating at the time, taken the child away for at least one overnight without advising the other parent where the HAP parent and the child have gone in what would appear an attempt to cause worry or to deprive the other parent of knowing the whereabouts of the child.
76. The HAP parent has refused to share prescription medication intended for the child and has sent the child to the other parent’s home without permitting the prescribed medication to travel with the child.
77. The HAP parent has refused to allow his/her drug/dental benefit plan to be used to purchase medication for the child when the child is at the other parent’s home thus forcing the other parent to purchase medication which would otherwise be covered by the parent’s benefit’s plan.
78. The HAP parent has refused to allow the child to take passes or coupons (season ski passes or amusement park passes, etc.) to the other parent’s home which the child could benefit from the use of while at the other parent’s home.
79. The HAP parent has refused to cooperate to vary a previous court order after the child has started working or has moved to live with the other parent or for any other reason is no longer applicable for child support.
80. The HAP parent has refused to take the necessary steps to advise a child support collection agency from withdrawing money from another parent for child support or daycare expenses when the child is no longer living with the HAP parent or daycare expenses are no longer applicable or has refused to refund the other parent for child support or daycare expenses that were not rightfully owed to the parent for a specific time period.
81. The HAP parent has permitted a minor child in the household to allow a boyfriend or girlfriend of the minor to live in the household contrary to the wishes of the other parent.
82. The HAP parent has offered the child money or other financial incentives conditional upon the child living with the parent.
83. The HAP parent has refused to allow the other parent to purchase his/her portion of the matrimonial home which has been the home for one or more of the couple’s children and has insisted that the home be put up for sale on the open marketplace.
84. The HAP parent has refused to obtain professional help or to participate in any program intended to help any child who would appear to be suffering from the effects of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS).
Taken from: Risk assessment protocol to evaluate the risk of harm to children caused by Hostile-Aggressive Parenting (HAP) (including recommended intervention strategies) Published by: Family Conflict Resolution Services