Behavioral Manifestations In Parents And Children
Most alienating behavior will fall into categories that include one or more of the following.
1. Unbalanced accounts of behaviors - Talking in extremes and absolutes
2. Merging of feelings between alienating parent and children, e.g. ”We do not like the Tuesday night dinner visit“
3. Denial of the relationship between the child and the alienated parent, as if he/she has no right to it any more
4. Behaviors which directly and/or indirectly thwart the relationship between the child and the other parent
5. Intrusive behaviors such as frequent phone calls (e.g. 2 - 3 times per day or more) into the other parent’s home during visits.
6. Encouraging the children to act as spies during visits
7. Informing children about adult issues, such as child support, reasons for the divorce, etc.
8. Forcing the children to be messengers of communications
9. Derogatory and blaming statements about the other parent
10. Tribal warfare in which other family members or family friends get brought into the battle between the parents
Alienation And Alignment Of Children by Philip M. Stahl, Ph.D. from California Psychologist, March 1999, Vol. 32, No. 3, p. 23ff
Most alienating behavior will fall into categories that include one or more of the following.
1. Unbalanced accounts of behaviors - Talking in extremes and absolutes
2. Merging of feelings between alienating parent and children, e.g. ”We do not like the Tuesday night dinner visit“
3. Denial of the relationship between the child and the alienated parent, as if he/she has no right to it any more
4. Behaviors which directly and/or indirectly thwart the relationship between the child and the other parent
5. Intrusive behaviors such as frequent phone calls (e.g. 2 - 3 times per day or more) into the other parent’s home during visits.
6. Encouraging the children to act as spies during visits
7. Informing children about adult issues, such as child support, reasons for the divorce, etc.
8. Forcing the children to be messengers of communications
9. Derogatory and blaming statements about the other parent
10. Tribal warfare in which other family members or family friends get brought into the battle between the parents
Alienation And Alignment Of Children by Philip M. Stahl, Ph.D. from California Psychologist, March 1999, Vol. 32, No. 3, p. 23ff