Hostile-Aggressive Behaviour as a Court Strategy
It is known in the legal community that if conflict exists in a family during separation or divorce that the courts will often apply the misguided concept of awarding sole custody to one parent in order to put the sole custodial parent “in control” over the children and, as it usually turns out, control over the other parent as well.
Many members of the public and the legal community claim that a bias in favour of mothers exists in the family courts today. Many believe that the courts will give custody of the children to the mother almost exclusively, with little regard to the father. Some claim that because of the bias in the courts, some mothers who want to win sole custody in family court will deliberately create conflict prior to going into court as they believe that it is to their advantage to do so and the odds are in their favour. This may explain why many fathers experience access denial problems in the weeks and months prior to going to court.
Some parents have reported being encouraged by their solicitors to give lip service to any form of mediation, to make unfounded allegations and generally maintain a high level of conflict prior to going to court. Those in legal circles know that often the courts will grant sole custody, usually to mothers, should conflict exist prior to a court appearance. Calls to police and social services prior to court are common-place as parents attempt to disadvantage and frustrate the other parent, often forcing the other parent to call the authorities to seek help.
This tactic is then used by the parent to claim conflict and to insist that the court grant sole custody to them and that any form of joint custody is unworkable. Unfortunately for the children, this strategy by the HAP parent often works, with the result that the youngest, most defenceless children are then placed into the care of a parent who exposes the children to a lifetime of hatred and revenge, a behaviour pattern which many children end up learning and many carrying these behaviour into the next generation.
Many members of the public and the legal community claim that a bias in favour of mothers exists in the family courts today. Many believe that the courts will give custody of the children to the mother almost exclusively, with little regard to the father. Some claim that because of the bias in the courts, some mothers who want to win sole custody in family court will deliberately create conflict prior to going into court as they believe that it is to their advantage to do so and the odds are in their favour. This may explain why many fathers experience access denial problems in the weeks and months prior to going to court.
Some parents have reported being encouraged by their solicitors to give lip service to any form of mediation, to make unfounded allegations and generally maintain a high level of conflict prior to going to court. Those in legal circles know that often the courts will grant sole custody, usually to mothers, should conflict exist prior to a court appearance. Calls to police and social services prior to court are common-place as parents attempt to disadvantage and frustrate the other parent, often forcing the other parent to call the authorities to seek help.
This tactic is then used by the parent to claim conflict and to insist that the court grant sole custody to them and that any form of joint custody is unworkable. Unfortunately for the children, this strategy by the HAP parent often works, with the result that the youngest, most defenceless children are then placed into the care of a parent who exposes the children to a lifetime of hatred and revenge, a behaviour pattern which many children end up learning and many carrying these behaviour into the next generation.