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Detection Techniques & Commentaries

Character assault (with moral overtones):

Evaluator/Therapist/Judge: What do you like about being at Mom’s? (open-ended and positive question)

Child: Mommy has lots of boyfriends who sleep over. Daddy says she’s a whore because the Bible says so.

Commentary: Representative of externally imposed definition with negative moral judgments on the target parent. Note the child did not answer the question – a frequent occurrence for programmed children

Use of indirect statements:

E/T/J: How did this weekend go? Does Mom/Dad have an opinion about the time you spend at Mom’s/ Dad’s?

Child: When I get home, Mom says things like, ‘Too bad you had to go with your dad this weekend - you missed a great ski trip. I bet you only watched TV, as usual.’  Mom’s right, he’s boring.

Commentary: Rather than encouraging a child to enjoy the time spent with a parent, the parent convinces the child that he will experience boredom. He will also be programmed to be thinking about what he’s missing, thereby mentally remaining in the mother’s home even though he is physically with his father.

Child appears as a mirror image of the programmer:

E/T/J: Why do you think your father is trying so hard to make sure he has more time with you?

Child: Dad doesn’t really love me or want me to live with him - he just wants custody to hurt mom.

Commentary: Most children who are aware of their parents’ custody conflict do not interpret the legal battles as indicating; that they are not loved or that one parent wants to hurt the other, unless they have been so informed.

Brain Twirling:

E/T/J: On the one hand, you say that the joint custody was good in a lot of ways. On the other hand, you say you don’t want it anymore. How come?

Child: I always thought I wanted joint custody (equal time in this case), and it was working in the beginning. But then my dad started so much trouble with Mom, it just isn’t worth it anymore.

Commentary: A programmer sends the child confused messages of both support and disdain for the relationship the child is having with the target parent. If both positive and negative messages are sent to the child about the target parent, the child will usually be most influenced by the negative ones. Also, the child needs civility and often creates an alliance with the programmer in an attempt to stop the intrapsychic and social conflict.

Coaching Behavior:

E/T/J is at a home visit

Child: [Upon entering her father’s home, a four-year-old exclaims this to the evaluators who are present for a home visit]:

E/T/J: How do you know that?

Child: My mommy told me to tell you he did.

Commentary: The repetition of an idea by the programmer is one of the more easily detectable clues. Evaluators often can elicit this programming by asking direct questions, as in this case. However, at other times it is necessary to lead up to the source indirectly. Protectionistic responses by the child include ‘I just know, That’s all,’ or ‘It’s true.’ Pursuing the base of the information – actual observation, parental brainwashing, conjecture, other adults, overhearing a conversation - takes discretion and knowing when to drop a topic and return later. Rapport is often a key element in obtaining full disclosure. Child threatens parent [reverse situation]:

E/T/J: I heard you say that you wanted to tell the judge certain things about your mom. What’s the story?

Child: Yeah, I told my Mom she better do what I want, because my dad told me I should tell him whenever Mom does something wrong, because the judge will punish her.

Commentary: Parents can become the powerless ones in custody conflicts. Children move in to fill the “power vacuum” with the help of a brainwashing parent. The target parent walks on eggshells with the child fearing that any disciplinary measures will be relayed and misinterpreted to the other parent and/or to the court.


Parental Alienation Syndrome:

A ‘Hidden’ Facet of Custody Disputes

Name: Lisa Cook

S.I.N.: 94111036

Date: April 5, 1995

Course: Children & the Law
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